Coach Yourself with These 4 Questions

In our previous article, we discussed some of the benefits of working with a coach. Did you know that you can also coach yourself? While it is not as effective as working with a professional coach, if you make it a habit, it can help you achieve your goals faster. You can do this by asking yourself these 4 powerful questions:

1. What do I want? What is the RESULT you desire? You should be very specific here. Saying “I want more money.” is too vague. Your mind cannot visualize it and because of that, it sits somewhere in your head like a distant wish which may or may not happen one day. “I want to retire with $1,000,000 in 20 years.” is more specific and therefore actionable.

2. Why do I want it? What is your PURPOSE? Why do you want to achieve this result? If your purpose is strong, you are more likely to achieve your result. In fact, if the result you are after is a must for you, you will find a way to get what you want.

Imagine that you are diabetic and the doctor says “Unless you lose 40 pounds and stop drinking, you have less than a year to live.”. How likely would you be to lose weight and stop drinking? On the other hand, if you just want to lose a few pounds but you can still fit in your size-2 jeans, that would be another story. 🙂

3. What’s my massive action plan? Knowing your Result (what) and Purpose (why) serves as the foundation. Now, you can create a massive action plan (how). If your foundation is strong enough, you will find the motivation to modify your plan until you get results. Back to our first example – retire with $1,000,000 in 20 years – you may need to get yourself a financial advisor to put together a plan for retirement.

4. What’s stopping me? If your desired result is realistic and if you are honest to yourself, you’ll realize the only thing that can stop you is YOU. That’s not to say that getting there will be a smooth ride, however, if the result you want is a must, you will find a way to overcome any obstacle.

You may be stopping yourself by creating excuses (not enough time, money, etc.) or by having limiting beliefs (“I am not meant to be rich”, “I am not smart enough”, etc.).

The most effective way of using these powerful questions is by writing them down and by visiting them on a regular basis to track your progress. If you’d like to work on them together with one of us, schedule a free 1-hour long session now and let’s take your life to the next level!

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5 thoughts on “Coach Yourself with These 4 Questions”

    1. Hey Gerald – In general we ask leaders to 1) Help their team clarify the specific RESULT they seek, 2) Discuss how does the team/company benefit from this result – aka your PURPOSE, 3) Once you know your result and purpose, then you can talk about a massive action PLAN. During this process, it’s important that you – the leader – listen more, talk less and ask your team quality questions to clarify. Feel free to email me if you have any questions… -Berk 🙂

  1. +1 for above. I am young and inexperienced manager. Telling my direct-reports what to do doesn’t seem to work especially when they are much more experienced than me. I read a couple books on leadership but I think I am still missing something.

  2. Hi Jiho – Is it possible that my comment to Gerald above applies to you too? Feel free to call me if you have any questions. -Berk 🙂

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