Your Emotional State

Do you remember the last time you had to perform in a situation that made you nervous? Maybe you were delivering a speech to an audience, interviewing for a job or negotiating a deal with a client? If you are like most people, you probably felt uneasy or nervous. Did you know that you can easily own these situations and perform like a star?

It starts with your emotional state. Your state changes the meaning you assign to things that happen in everyday life. These “things” are called stimuli (plural of stimulus, of course I googled it.). Stimulus can be anything – dinner was late, the customer didn’t call, lost a loved one, etc. Depending on your state, you extract meaning from the stimulus and that leads to a certain feeling, feeling leads to a decision and decision to action. You may not be able to change stimuli but by controlling your state, you can change the way you feel about it, which then changes how you respond to stimuli.



In order to master your state, you must master 3 forces:

1. Physiology: How you use your body affects how you feel. Caring for your body will lead to more positive feelings. This is why people who workout enjoy a sense of confidence.

2. Focus: Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Think about NASCAR drivers. Do you think they focus on the road or the wall? Focusing on the results will help you crush obstacles that are between you and where you want to be.

3. Language: Controlling that loud voice in your head is very important. Instead of saying “Oh f*ck!”, say “F*ck you!” and show life who is in charge.

Once you understand that you are in charge of your feelings and use these 3 forces to your advantage, you’ll be able to master your emotional state. Being in a positive and resourceful state will help you make the right decisions and take the right actions for outstanding success.

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5 thoughts on “Your Emotional State”

  1. I can relate to the language part. My selftalk is negative & discouraging. Wish I could be in peace with myself and tell that voice in my head to STFU!

  2. I am a sales rep. Before I talk to a customer in-person or over the phone, I get myself pumped up by jumping up-down. When my heart rate is up, I feel I have more energy and feel more positive. My 2 cents…..

    1. Me too!!! When I used to go for those 3-4 hour programming interviews, I’d ask to use the restroom between the interviews and do jumping jacks! 🙂

  3. I get what you are saying but regardless of my state, life is hard man. Not having enough $$$ always makes me feel down. I have good income (some years over 500K) but I make stupid investment decisions. Maybe I need coaching LOL.

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